Forgiving What You Can't Forget

Why I'd hand it to you

Lysa TerKeurst writes out of deep personal pain, including betrayal in her marriage, about how to forgive people who have hurt you badly without pretending the hurt didn't happen. She separates forgiveness from reconciliation and talks about boundaries alongside grace. The book mixes Scripture, insight from her counselor and her own story. It is honest about how hard and slow this is. The caveat: it is written mostly for Christian women, and it leans heavily on her own experience, which won't map onto every situation, especially cases of ongoing abuse. For many hurting readers, though, it offers real comfort.

— Matt Jordan